QUESTION:
Posted by: "racapellan" racapellan@yahoo.
Sun Sep 13, 2009 3:46 pm (PDT)
hi; i need your help. i've been practicing kundalini for the past few years
and i've been able to enjoy it's multiple benefits, both physical and
espiritual. nevertheless, there is this one aspect i haven't been able to
surpas thru practice. it is my fixation when it comes to people with whom i
feel a great deal of incompatibility (apathy). i've complemented my practice
with some reading about reincarnation and the only explanation i find is
that maybe i still hold some sort of "unfinished business" with some of
these people.
currently i have this particular case with my brother in law, with whom i
have a limited level of tolerance for his actions. i feel extermely
unconfortable when i'm arround him since i see him as an arrogant person,
who shows little gratefulness to the universe for the blessings he's
received (no humbleness at all). this all goes against my actual believes
and values. the thing is, i don't know if this feeling of mine has a
particular espiritual base, or if it's just a simple case of mental
fixation, and how to solve it?
if it were about any other person maybe ignoring him would be the wisest
choice, but in this case it's about a close family contact with whom i have
to deal with frequently. i've tried to discuss this with my wife and assess
the possibility of even speaking frankly about this with him, but the way we
see it, it's a mather of carachter, and it's all very difficult to change.
besides, why would it be my quest to change this person? this situation is
the anti-thesis of my line of thinking and the things i believe and value
out of life, i even see this person as a bad influence for my dearest and
closest ones.
i would truly appreciate any insights you might be able to provide in this
matter.
Sat Nam! Rafael.
REPLY:
Satnaam Rafael.
Baba ji taught me to remember that absolutely no-one is our enemy. Only our
five thieves (anger, greed, attachment, lust and pride) are our enemies.
When these thieves get aroused within us, they make us point the finger at
others. But we have to remember "I am not good and no-one is bad. Praying
like this #nanak has been ferried across." And turn the finger inwards and
identify which if thieves is getting aggravated. In this caase it is your
ego that is getting offended which leads to anger towards the other person.
The solution is very simple, in your meditation become relaxed and get into
a loving state. Then bring this person into your mind, bow to their soul
(the God-part) in them, and wash their feet whilst reciting "no ego , only
YOU SatNaam , only You". Keep doing this until you actually only see
SatNaam in them or your spiritual mentor/Guru. And keep doing it every day
in your meditation until this thorn of ego leaves you. Otherwise everyday
it will just prick you more and more.
You may find it very difficult to even imagine bowing to this person in your
mind, but that show how thick your ego has become.
So that is the real battle, the inner struggle with ego and anger, and not
with any other person in the world.
Then also pray for the upliftment of the other person, think good for them,
try and focus on even 1% of good they have, rather than the 99% of seemingly
bad.
Then also thank them for being in your life, because they are also your
teacher, for they have shown you that you have ego and anger still to deal
with.
We have been through the same thing with our own family, wife and
community. Its a stage we all have to go through. So keep going through
all these levels of lower consciousness and reach Truth (SatNaam)
consciousness where there is nothing but love and compassion in your heart
for one and all.
God Bless You
Harjit
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