I agree with Ram Gian Kaur learn to dance. It is something that I personally love to do, my husband doesn't really like to dance, and unfortunately because of this I rarely get to enjoy something that makes my soul sing. I even gave up the opportunity years ago to teach dancing because it meant I would have to compete world wide with a dancing "partner." I gave this up because I did not want my husband to be stressed about it, but thirty plus years later, I have given up so much more, just to keep the peace and appease his "fears". Please do not do this to your wife.
If you are concerned about the seductiveness dancing and your wife dancing with other men, then why would you not want to enjoy dancing with her? That way she gets to enjoy dancing and you won't feel threatened by her dancing with other men.
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Date: Thu, 20 Mar 2014 09:14:05 +0000
Subject: Re: [Kundalini Yoga] Re: Should a married woman dance with men other than her husband?
Have you tried discussing your feeling with your wife? If it is creating tension then you need to talk about it, but in a caring way. As you say you want to give pleasure to your wife and no to control her, but if certain dances are causing you distress you need to discuss it. If it goes unresolved it could drive you apart.
A previous poster suggested learning to dance yourself. Make the suggestion. I myself love to dance and would be overjoyed to dance with my husband. Fortunately I only tend to dance early (16th century) dances which are at arms length and with people we have both known for many years. It feels more like dancing with your brother.
Love & light
Ram Gian Kaur
Some women have said that they want to be allowed to do whatever they want.
Well my wife is dancing now. The intimacy of it bothers me. I don't think it has to do with my ego. Do you enjoy seeing women intimate with your husbands? To me it seems inappropriate, and it doesn't seem graceful or noble. That is the conflict I am having, and that is why I have asked the question, for help.
One person responded : "The 'tango' is a very intimate dance displaying each partner in provocative positions. It is designed to heighten the sexual attraction to each other and show others the love and affection the couple have together." While I have never heard this before, this is more disturbing. Why would any woman be doing this dance with anyone other than her husband?
I agree that cultures vary. Obviously in many cultures this would not be acceptable. I just want to do the right thing, live the correct way, I don't want to control my wife, but on the other hand the intimacy of another man touching my wife that way is a very disturbing thing to me sometimes.
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